Understanding Anger and Shouting

In my search for ways to manage anger, I came across a powerful story that truly resonated with me. I'd like to share it with you, along with my gratitude to the unknown author.

A Hindu saint, while visiting the river Ganges for a ritual bath, noticed a couple arguing heatedly by the riverbank. Turning to his disciples, the saint smiled and asked, "Why do people shout in anger when they’re right next to each other?"

One disciple answered, "Because we lose our calm, so we shout." The saint, however, pushed further. "But why shout when the person is so near? Can’t we express ourselves softly?"

Though many answers were given, none satisfied the group. Finally, the saint explained, "When two people are angry, their hearts grow distant. To overcome this emotional distance, they shout so that the other can hear them. The greater the anger, the greater the distance—and the louder they must shout."

He continued, "But when two people love each other, their hearts are close, so they speak softly. The closer they grow, the softer they speak, until eventually, no words are needed—just a glance speaks volumes.

"Remember this: When you argue, don't allow your hearts to grow distant. If you use words that push each other away, the distance may become so great that one day, you may not find your way back."

This story serves as a reminder to be mindful of our words in moments of anger, so we don’t create emotional distance with those we care about.